The story we tell ourself.
"Meanings are not determined by situations. We determine ourselves by the meanings we ascribe to situations." Alfred Adler
The road to change is by us understanding that we can change the story that we tell ourselves.
When things happen to us, we use our own subjective way to translate what had happen.
Sometimes, it's very far from what really happened.
Only we can change the way we perceive our reality, and only we can decide what to do about it.
Questioning what we think is true, is the first step.